Is Scheduling Sex a Good Idea?

In this episode series Tony shares 10 reasons that "scheduling" sex might be worth considering.  The fact of the matter is that for most people... when something is a priority to them... they go above and beyond the call of duty to not just wait to see if that thing happens... and instead they make sure that the thing happens... because it is a priority to them.  We live in a crazy busy... "helter skelter" world... and there are often so many things that we "have" to do... that the things that we "want" to do... and "need" to do... often get overshadowed and pushed to the side.

Many people have the romantic and idealistic notion that sexual intimacy should always be spontaneous... like what happens in romance novels.  But in reality... if couples wait for sex to always happen  spontaneously... they might end up waiting way more than they expected... and sexual intimacy between them might happen way less than they would prefer.

In view of this... Tony shares 10 reasons that scheduling sex can often work to the advantage for married couples.  After all... people schedule all kinds of other things that are important to them... like going to church... or taking the kids to practice... or grocery shopping... so why not keep sexual intimacy the priority that it should always be by also making sure that it happens on a frequent and regular basis by scheduling the event on your weekly calendar?

Tony asks that before you render a judgment too quickly against this idea... will you at least listen to these episodes as objectively as you possibly can?

You might just be surprised... because a "schedule" might just help you and your spouse to experience more sexual intimacy than you've been having in a long time!

Welcome to... Is Scheduling Sex A Good Idea?

Is Scheduling Sex a Good Idea?

In this episode series Tony shares 10 reasons that "scheduling" sex might be worth considering.  The fact of the matter is that for most people... when something is a priority to them... they go above and beyond the call of duty to not just wait to see if that thing happens... and instead they make sure that the thing happens... because it is a priority to them.  We live in a crazy busy... "helter skelter" world... and there are often so many things that we "have" to do... that the things that we "want" to do... and "need" to do... often get overshadowed and pushed to the side.

Many people have the romantic and idealistic notion that sexual intimacy should always be spontaneous... like what happens in romance novels.  But in reality... if couples wait for sex to always happen  spontaneously... they might end up waiting way more than they expected... and sexual intimacy between them might happen way less than they would prefer.

In view of this... Tony shares 10 reasons that scheduling sex can often work to the advantage for married couples.  After all... people schedule all kinds of other things that are important to them... like going to church... or taking the kids to practice... or grocery shopping... so why not keep sexual intimacy the priority that it should always be by also making sure that it happens on a frequent and regular basis by scheduling the event on your weekly calendar?

Tony asks that before you render a judgment too quickly against this idea... will you at least listen to these episodes as objectively as you possibly can?

You might just be surprised... because a "schedule" might just help you and your spouse to experience more sexual intimacy than you've been having in a long time!

Welcome to... Is Scheduling Sex A Good Idea?

Is Scheduling Sex a Good Idea?

In this episode series Tony shares 10 reasons that "scheduling" sex might be worth considering.  The fact of the matter is that for most people... when something is a priority to them... they go above and beyond the call of duty to not just wait to see if that thing happens... and instead they make sure that the thing happens... because it is a priority to them.  We live in a crazy busy... "helter skelter" world... and there are often so many things that we "have" to do... that the things we "want" to do... and "need" to do... often get overshadowed and pushed to the side.

Many people have the romantic and idealistic notion that sexual intimacy should always be “spontaneous”... like what happens in romance novels.  But in reality... if couples wait for sex to always happen  spontaneously... they might end up waiting way more than they expected... and sexual intimacy between them might happen way less than they would prefer.

In view of this... Tony shares 10 reasons that scheduling sex can often work to the advantage for married couples.  After all... people schedule all kinds of other things that are important to them... like going to church... or taking the kids to practice... or grocery shopping... so why not keep sexual intimacy the priority that it should always be by also making sure that it happens on a frequent and regular basis by scheduling the event on your weekly calendar?

Tony asks that before you render a judgment too quickly against this idea... will you at least listen to these episodes as objectively as you possibly can?

You might just be surprised... because a "schedule" might just help you and your spouse to experience more sexual intimacy than you've been having in a long time!

Welcome to... Is Scheduling Sex A Good Idea?

DID YOU KNOW THAT AN ESTIMATED 50% OF PASTORS VIEW INTERNET PORNOGRAPHY ON A REGULAR BASIS?

Vern Tompke has been a pastor for 29 years... and throughout his ministry he has struggled with using pornography.  During this time Vern realized just how hard it is for a pastor to find help with this struggle.

* Who can a pastor turn to for help?

* Who can a pastor be honest with?

* Who can a pastor trust?

* What if people find out about his struggle?

* Will he be fired from his job?

* How will be continue to provide for his family if he looses his job?

These are no doubt questions that Vern struggled with.

Although Vern led a weekly men's recovery group around this issue for 15 years... he didn't begin to walk in true freedom until 3 years ago.

What helped Vern "turn the corner" was getting mentored by another godly man... investing time and finances in his own therapeutic process... and listening on a regular basis to great podcasts... including The Power of Purity Podcast.

Recently Vern started his own podcast... Pastors On Porn... which is intended to be a safe place for struggling pastors to find anonymous help for their struggle.

In this episode Tony does something very different... because Tony is normally the INTERVIEWER... but on this episode Tony is actually the INTERVIEWEE.

Vern actually hosted Tony as a guest on the Pastors On Porn Podcast... and it's that episode that's being presented today on the Power of Purity Podcast.

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/pastors-on-porn/id1435403633

DID YOU KNOW THAT AN ESTIMATED 50% OF PASTORS VIEW INTERNET PORNOGRAPHY ON A REGULAR BASIS?

Vern Tompke has been a pastor for 29 years... and throughout his ministry he has struggled with using pornography.  During this time Vern realized just how hard it is for a pastor to find help with this struggle.

* Who can a pastor turn to for help?

* Who can a pastor be honest with?

* Who can a pastor trust?

* What if people find out about his struggle?

* Will he be fired from his job?

* How will be continue to provide for his family if he looses his job?

These are no doubt questions that Vern struggled with.

Although Vern led a weekly men's recovery group around this issue for 15 years... he didn't begin to walk in true freedom until 3 years ago.

What helped Vern "turn the corner" was getting mentored by another godly man... investing time and finances in his own therapeutic process... and listening on a regular basis to great podcasts... including The Power of Purity Podcast.

Recently Vern started his own podcast... Pastors On Porn... which is intended to be a safe place for struggling pastors to find anonymous help for their struggle.

In this episode Tony does something very different... because Tony is normally the INTERVIEWER... but on this episode Tony is actually the INTERVIEWEE.

Vern actually hosted Tony as a guest on the Pastors On Porn Podcast... and it's that episode that's being presented today on the Power of Purity Podcast.

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/pastors-on-porn/id1435403633

NOTE - In this epidote Shaun shares some very powerful ideas on how to talk with you kids about sexual issues!

Shaun is a believer in Christ.

He loves God... and wants to serve God.

He wants to honor God with his life.

He loves his wife and his family.

But Shaun struggled with his addiction to pornography for years.

This led to Shaun becoming a man of duplicity... because he had sexual secrets... and he was representing himself to his wife as one man... when he was in fact a very different man.

And then Shaun got "CAUGHT"!

That was "D-DAY"... and it forced him to come into the "light" with his wife... and with God... and with himself.

Shortly after his D-DAY... a friend told him about this purity group that meets in the St. Louis area... led by this guy name Tony Ingrassia.

About 5 years ago Shaun began coming to the group shortly after he heard about it... and Shaun now has 5 years of sexual sobriety... or said another way... Shaun has NOT looked at porn for about 5 years now!

AMAZING

Shaun is living proof that...

* IT IS POSSIBLE for a man to STOP LOOKING AT PORN.

* IT IS POSSIBLE for a man to OVERCOME HIS SEXUAL ADDICTION... by God's grace!

* IT IS POSSIBLE FOR A WHITE GLOVE TO BE IN THE MIDDEL OF A BIG MUD PUDDLE AND STILL REMAIN PURE AND CLEAN!

Be encouraged as you hear Shaun's story... because if Shaun can do it... so can YOU!

Shaun is a believer in Christ.

He loves God... and wants to serve God.

He wants to honor God with his life.

He loves his wife and his family.

But Shaun struggled with his addiction to pornography for years.

This led to Shaun becoming a man of duplicity... because he had sexual secrets... and he was representing himself to his wife as one man... when he was in fact a very different man.

And then Shaun got "CAUGHT"!

That was "D-DAY"... and it forced him to come into the "light" with his wife... and with God... and with himself.

Shortly after his D-DAY... a friend told him about this purity group that meets in the St. Louis area... led by this guy named Tony Ingrassia.

About 5 years ago Shaun began coming to the group shortly after he heard about it... and Shaun now has 5 years of sexual sobriety... or said another way... Shaun has NOT looked at porn for about 5 years now!

AMAZING

Shaun is living proof that...

* IT IS POSSIBLE for a man to STOP LOOKING AT PORN.

* IT IS POSSIBLE for a man to OVERCOME HIS SEXUAL ADDICTION... by God's grace!

* IT IS POSSIBLE for a man to BRING HIS SEXUAL GIFT UNDER THE AUTHORITY OF CHRIST!

* IT IS POSSIBLE FOR A GLOVE TO STAY WHITE AND PURE... EVEN IN THE MIDDLE OF A MUD PUDDLE!

Be encouraged as you hear Shaun's story... because if Shaun can do it... so can YOU!

Dr. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the President of Authentic Intimacy.  Juli earned her college degree at Wheaton College, an MA in psychology from Biola University, an MS and a Doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology from Florida Institute of Technology.

From 2008-2012, Dr. Slattery served at Focus on the Family writing, teaching, and co-hosting the Focus on the Family daily radio broadcast. In 2012, she left Focus on the Family to start Authentic Intimacy, a ministry devoted to reclaiming God’s design for intimacy.

Juli is the author of ten books, host of the weekly podcast “Java with Juli”, and a member of the board of trustees for Moody Bible Institute. 

Dr. Juli's books include...

(1) Rethinking Sexuality – God’s Design And Why It Matters

(2) Passion Pursuit – What Kind of Love Are You Making

(3) Sex and The Single Girl

(4) Finding The Hero In Your Husband

(5) 25 Questions You’re Afraid To Ask About Love, Sex and Intimacy

(6) Surprised by The Healer – Embracing Hope For Your Broken Story

(7) No More Headaches – Enjoying Sex & Intimacy In Marriage

(8) Pulling Back The Shades – Erotica, Intimacy and The Longings of A Woman’s Heart

(9) Beyond The Masquerade – Unveiling The Authentic You

(10) Guilt Free Motherhood – Parenting With Godly Wisdom

Through her ministry... Authentic Intimacy... Dr. Juli helps people understand the beauty of God's plan and holy design for sexual intimacy.

On this episode and the next... Tony presents "really hard questions" about sex and intimacy to Dr. Juli.

Juli and her husband Mike are the parents of 3 sons; they live in Akron, Ohio.

www.authenticintimacy.com

Dr. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the President of Authentic Intimacy.  Juli earned her college degree at Wheaton College, her MA in psychology from Biola University, and her MS and a Doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology from Florida Institute of Technology.

From 2008-2012, Dr. Slattery served at Focus on the Family writing, teaching, and co-hosting the Focus on the Family daily radio broadcast. In 2012, she left Focus on the Family to start Authentic Intimacy, a ministry devoted to reclaiming God’s design for intimacy.

Juli is the author of ten books, host of the weekly podcast “Java with Juli”, and a member of the board of trustees for Moody Bible Institute. 

Dr. Juli's books include...

(1) Rethinking Sexuality – God’s Design And Why It Matters

(2) Passion Pursuit – What Kind of Love Are You Making

(3) Sex and The Single Girl

(4) Finding The Hero In Your Husband

(5) 25 Questions You’re Afraid To Ask About Love, Sex and Intimacy

(6) Surprised by The Healer – Embracing Hope For Your Broken Story

(7) No More Headaches – Enjoying Sex & Intimacy In Marriage

(8) Pulling Back The Shades – Erotica, Intimacy and The Longings of A Woman’s Heart

(9) Beyond The Masquerade – Unveiling The Authentic You

(10) Guilt Free Motherhood – Parenting With Godly Wisdom

Through her ministry... Authentic Intimacy... Dr. Juli helps people understand the beauty of God's plan and holy design for sexual intimacy.

On this episode and the next... Tony presents "really hard questions" about sex and intimacy to Dr. Juli.

Juli and her husband Mike are the parents of 3 sons; they live in Akron, Ohio.

www.authenticintimacy.com

MJ Denis is a specialist in the area of Betrayal Trauma... with the following credentials:

LPC - Licensed Professional Counselor

LMFT – Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

AASECT Certified Sex Therapist

APSAT Certified Partner Trauma Specialist

MJ's path has led her to specialize in areas involving sexual dysfunction, sexual betrayal, intimacy discrepancies and desire disorders. Her experience includes working as a mental health counselor, as an emergency hotline advocate, counseling patients experiencing sexual dysfunction, and helping individuals and couples work through the pain of betrayal, infidelity, and sex addiction for the Affair Recovery Center.

MJ combines her experience as a sex therapist with her passion for helping couples learn to experience satisfying and healthy sexual relationships with their partners. As a Partner Trauma Specialist, she helps sex addicts and their partners learn about healthy sexuality and how to create intimacy in their relationships. MJ is trained in both ETT and EMDR.

In this interview Tony and MJ discuss what Betrayal Trauma is... what it looks like... how it effects peoples... its profound implications... and what it takes to experience true and lasting healing.

Tony wanted to interview MJ Denis for 2 primary reasons:

(1) To inspire hope for those who are struggling with Betrayal Trauma... that genuine healing truly in possible.

(2) To help us all understand the profound implications of Betrayal Trauma... in the hope that such understanding will help us to never perpetrate such trauma within the context of our own relationship.

MJ Denis is a specialist in the area of Betrayal Trauma... with the following credentials:

LPC - Licensed Professional Counselor

LMFT – Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

AASECT Certified Sex Therapist

APSAT Certified Partner Trauma Specialist

MJ's path has led her to specialize in areas involving sexual dysfunction, sexual betrayal, intimacy discrepancies and desire disorders. Her experience includes working as a mental health counselor, as an emergency hotline advocate, counseling patients experiencing sexual dysfunction, and helping individuals and couples work through the pain of betrayal, infidelity, and sex addiction for the Affair Recovery Center.

MJ combines her experience as a sex therapist with her passion for helping couples learn to experience satisfying and healthy sexual relationships with their partners. As a Partner Trauma Specialist, she helps sex addicts and their partners learn about healthy sexuality and how to create intimacy in their relationships. MJ is trained in both ETT and EMDR.

In this interview Tony and MJ discuss what Betrayal Trauma is... what it looks like... how it affects peoples... its profound implications... and what it takes to experience true and lasting healing.

Tony wanted to interview MJ Denis for 2 primary reasons:

(1) To inspire hope for those who are struggling with Betrayal Trauma... that genuine healing truly in possible.

(2) To help us all understand the profound implications of Betrayal Trauma... in the hope that such understanding will help us to never perpetrate such trauma within the context of our own relationship.

George Carneal, author of “From Queer to Christ”, grew up in the ’70s, raised by a Southern Baptist minister in the ultra-conservative Bible belt.  For years he struggled with his Christian faith and a same-sex attraction.  George shares his painful journey through a secular world at odds with homosexuality, in addition to a religious world that is hostile to homosexuals.  Perhaps sharing his journey through the eyes, and mind, of a confused child dealing with a same-sex attraction will give some insight into the pain and difficulty of navigating these two worlds.

George would eventually spend 25 years immersed in the homosexual lifestyle (mostly in the Los Angeles club scene) and shares the pitfalls of that life.  His story is not about glamorizing a life he once lived.  Deliverance is possible.  There is hope in Christ!

George’s story is not an attack on the LGBT or Christian communities, nor is his story a representation of what all LGBT individuals go through.  This is merely his journey and what he learned along the way.

George is a frequent speaker at churches and conferences, has worked with pastors who are struggling with how to address this issue, and has appeared on broadcasts including the Christian Television Network – Homekeepers program, World Net Daily, Stand In The Gap Today (American Pastors Network), Janet Mefferd Live, Christian Life Magazine 99.3 FM, Focus Today w/Perry Atkinson (TheDoveTV), News & Views with Gregory Howard, Soaring Eagle Radio,TheIgniting a Nation Broadcasting Network, etc., as well as contributing quotes to online articles for LifeSite News and The Christian Post.

www.georgecarneal.com

George Carneal, author of “From Queer to Christ”, grew up in the ’70s, raised by a Southern Baptist minister in the ultra-conservative Bible belt.  For years he struggled with his Christian faith and a same-sex attraction.  George shares his painful journey through a secular world at odds with homosexuality, in addition to a religious world that is hostile to homosexuals.  Perhaps sharing his journey through the eyes, and mind, of a confused child dealing with a same-sex attraction will give some insight into the pain and difficulty of navigating these two worlds.

George would eventually spend 25 years immersed in the homosexual lifestyle (mostly in the Los Angeles club scene) and shares the pitfalls of that life.  His story is not about glamorizing a life he once lived.  Deliverance is possible.  There is hope in Christ!

George’s story is not an attack on the LGBT or Christian communities, nor is his story a representation of what all LGBT individuals go through.  This is merely his journey and what he learned along the way.

George is a frequent speaker at churches and conferences, has worked with pastors who are struggling with how to address this issue, and has appeared on broadcasts including the Christian Television Network – Homekeepers program, World Net Daily, Stand In The Gap Today (American Pastors Network), Janet Mefferd Live, Christian Life Magazine 99.3 FM, Focus Today w/Perry Atkinson (TheDoveTV), News & Views with Gregory Howard, Soaring Eagle Radio,TheIgniting a Nation Broadcasting Network, etc., as well as contributing quotes to online articles for LifeSite News and The Christian Post.

www.georgecarneal.com

George Carneal, author of “From Queer to Christ”, grew up in the ’70s, raised by a Southern Baptist minister in the ultra-conservative Bible belt.  For years he struggled with his Christian faith and a same-sex attraction.  George shares his painful journey through a secular world at odds with homosexuality, in addition to a religious world that is hostile to homosexuals.  Perhaps sharing his journey through the eyes, and mind, of a confused child dealing with a same-sex attraction will give some insight into the pain and difficulty of navigating these two worlds.

George would eventually spend 25 years immersed in the homosexual lifestyle (mostly in the Los Angeles club scene) and shares the pitfalls of that life.  His story is not about glamorizing a life he once lived.  Deliverance is possible.  There is hope in Christ!

George’s story is not an attack on the LGBT or Christian communities, nor is his story a representation of what all LGBT individuals go through.  This is merely his journey and what he learned along the way.

George is a frequent speaker at churches and conferences, has worked with pastors who are struggling with how to address this issue, and has appeared on broadcasts including the Christian Television Network – Homekeepers program, World Net Daily, Stand In The Gap Today (American Pastors Network), Janet Mefferd Live, Christian Life Magazine 99.3 FM, Focus Today w/ Perry Atkinson (The DoveTV), News & Views with Gregory Howard, Soaring Eagle Radio,The Igniting a Nation Broadcasting Network, etc., as well as contributing quotes to online articles for LifeSite News and The Christian Post.

www.georgecarneal.com

George Carneal, author of “From Queer to Christ”, grew up in the ’70s, raised by a Southern Baptist minister in the ultra-conservative Bible belt.  For years he struggled with his Christian faith and a same-sex attraction.  George shares his painful journey through a secular world at odds with homosexuality, in addition to a religious world that is hostile to homosexuals.  Perhaps sharing his journey through the eyes, and mind, of a confused child dealing with a same-sex attraction will give some insight into the pain and difficulty of navigating these two worlds.

George would eventually spend 25 years immersed in the homosexual lifestyle (mostly in the Los Angeles club scene) and shares the pitfalls of that life.  His story is not about glamorizing a life he once lived.  Deliverance is possible.  There is hope in Christ!

George’s story is not an attack on the LGBT or Christian communities, nor is his story a representation of what all LGBT individuals go through.  This is merely his journey and what he learned along the way.

George is a frequent speaker at churches and conferences, has worked with pastors who are struggling with how to address this issue, and has appeared on broadcasts including the Christian Television Network – Homekeepers program, World Net Daily, Stand In The Gap Today (American Pastors Network), Janet Mefferd Live, Christian Life Magazine 99.3 FM, Focus Today w/ Perry Atkinson (The DoveTV), News & Views with Gregory Howard, Soaring Eagle Radio,The Igniting a Nation Broadcasting Network, etc., as well as contributing quotes to online articles for LifeSite News and The Christian Post.

www.georgecarneal.com

The term "purity culture" is often used in a pejorative way to describe the traditional Christian and biblical viewpoint and teachings concerning human sexuality.  At the epicenter of this traditional viewpoint are such tenants as this:

* Sexuality is a precious gift that God has given to us... and we are called to honor God with the expression of our sexual gift.

* That God has a will... plan... and design for human sexuality... and God has an opinion about what is right and what is wrong when it comes to sex.

* That doing sex God's way involves expressing and experiencing our sexual selves exclusively within the context of a loving... committed... and monogamous marriage between one man and one woman. 

* That because of this... it's appropriate to teach and to promote sexual abstinence before marriage... and to esteem the virtue of virginity before marriage.

Many people who came of age in Christian evangelical churches in the 1990's and 2000's were exposed to these teachings of the "purity culture"... and many had experiences with rituals promoting abstinence until marriage through initiatives such as "purity pledges"... "purity balls"...  and "purity rings".

As a result of these experiences and teachings... many people today have come to hold a deep anger and resentment toward "purity culture"... and even believe that their lives were deeply and profoundly harmed by their experiences within the "purity culture".  Because of this there is a growing cacophony of voices that are raging against the Christian "purity culture"... and thus the title of this series...

A Critical Response To Purity Culture Outrage.

In this important series... among other topics... Tony does the following:

* Defines "purity culture".

* Identifies the 5 primary complaints that are held and voiced against "purity culture".

* Shares 5 observations regarding "purity culture" in general.

* Then responds to the 5 primary complaints that are being levied against the "purity culture". 

Are the traditional viewpoints and teachings of the church... and of the bible... concerning human sexuality harming peoples lives and souls?

Are Christian parents harming their children by teaching them biblical principles about sex and sexuality?

Is what the bible says about sex old fashioned... out of date... an irrelevant in our modern world?

Discover the answers to these and other important questions in this intriguing series of episodes...

A Critical Response To Purity Culture Outrage.

The term "purity culture" is often used in a pejorative way to describe the traditional Christian and biblical viewpoint and teachings concerning human sexuality.  At the epicenter of this traditional viewpoint are such tenants as this:

* Sexuality is a precious gift that God has given to us... and we are called to honor God with the expression of our sexual gift.

* That God has a will... plan... and design for human sexuality... and God has an opinion about what is right and what is wrong when it comes to sex.

* That doing sex God's way involves expressing and experiencing our sexual selves exclusively within the context of a loving... committed... and monogamous marriage between one man and one woman. 

* That because of this... it's appropriate to teach and to promote sexual abstinence before marriage... and to esteem the virtue of virginity before marriage.

Many people who came of age in Christian evangelical churches in the 1990's and 2000's were exposed to these teachings of the "purity culture"... and many had experiences with rituals promoting abstinence until marriage through initiatives such as "purity pledges"... "purity balls"...  and "purity rings".

As a result of these experiences and teachings... many people today have come to hold a deep anger and resentment toward "purity culture"... and even believe that their lives were deeply and profoundly harmed by their experiences within the "purity culture".  Because of this there is a growing cacophony of voices that are raging against the Christian "purity culture"... and thus the title of this series...

A Critical Response To Purity Culture Outrage.

In this important series... among other topics... Tony does the following:

* Defines "purity culture".

* Identifies the 5 primary complaints that are held and voiced against "purity culture".

* Shares 5 observations regarding "purity culture" in general.

* Then responds to the 5 primary complaints that are being levied against the "purity culture". 

Are the traditional viewpoints and teachings of the church... and of the bible... concerning human sexuality harming peoples lives and souls?

Are Christian parents harming their children by teaching them biblical principles about sex and sexuality?

Is what the bible says about sex old fashioned... out of date... an irrelevant in our modern world?

Discover the answers to these and other important questions in this intriguing series of episodes...

A Critical Response To Purity Culture Outrage.

The term "purity culture" is often used in a pejorative way to describe the traditional Christian and biblical viewpoint and teachings concerning human sexuality.  At the epicenter of this traditional viewpoint are such tenants as this:

* Sexuality is a precious gift that God has given to us... and we are called to honor God with the expression of our sexual gift.

* That God has a will... plan... and design for human sexuality... and God has an opinion about what is right and what is wrong when it comes to sex.

* That doing sex God's way involves expressing and experiencing our sexual selves exclusively within the context of a loving... committed... and monogamous marriage between one man and one woman. 

* That because of this... it's appropriate to teach and to promote sexual abstinence before marriage... and to esteem the virtue of virginity before marriage.

Many people who came of age in Christian evangelical churches in the 1990's and 2000's were exposed to these teachings of the "purity culture"... and many had experiences with rituals promoting abstinence until marriage through initiatives such as "purity pledges"... "purity balls"...  and "purity rings".

As a result of these experiences and teachings... many people today have come to hold a deep anger and resentment toward "purity culture"... and even believe that their lives were deeply and profoundly harmed by their experiences within the "purity culture".  Because of this there is a growing cacophony of voices that are raging against the Christian "purity culture"... and thus the title of this series...

A Critical Response To Purity Culture Outrage.

In this important series... among other topics... Tony does the following:

* Defines "purity culture".

* Identifies the 5 primary complaints that are held and voiced against "purity culture".

* Shares 5 observations regarding "purity culture" in general.

* Then responds to the 5 primary complaints that are being levied against the "purity culture". 

Are the traditional viewpoints and teachings of the church... and of the bible... concerning human sexuality harming peoples lives and souls?

Are Christian parents harming their children by teaching them biblical principles about sex and sexuality?

Is what the bible says about sex old fashioned... out of date... an irrelevant in our modern world?

Discover the answers to these and other important questions in this intriguing series of episodes...

A Critical Response To Purity Culture Outrage.

The term "purity culture" is often used in a pejorative way to describe the traditional Christian and biblical viewpoint and teachings concerning human sexuality.  At the epicenter of this traditional viewpoint are such tenants as this:

* Sexuality is a precious gift that God has given to us... and we are called to honor God with the expression of our sexual gift.

* That God has a will... plan... and design for human sexuality... and God has an opinion about what is right and what is wrong when it comes to sex.

* That doing sex God's way involves expressing and experiencing our sexual selves exclusively within the context of a loving... committed... and monogamous marriage between one man and one woman. 

* That because of this... it's appropriate to teach and to promote sexual abstinence before marriage... and to esteem the virtue of virginity before marriage.

Many people who came of age in Christian evangelical churches in the 1990's and 2000's were exposed to these teachings of the "purity culture"... and many had experiences with rituals promoting abstinence until marriage through initiatives such as "purity pledges"... "purity balls"...  and "purity rings".

As a result of these experiences and teachings... many people today have come to hold a deep anger and resentment toward "purity culture"... and even believe that their lives were deeply and profoundly harmed by their experiences within the "purity culture".  Because of this there is a growing cacophony of voices that are raging against the Christian "purity culture"... and thus the title of this series...

A Critical Response To Purity Culture Outrage.

In this important series... among other topics... Tony does the following:

* Defines "purity culture".

* Identifies the 5 primary complaints that are held and voiced against "purity culture".

* Shares 5 observations regarding "purity culture" in general.

* Then responds to the 5 primary complaints that are being levied against "purity culture. 

Are the traditional viewpoints and teachings of the church... and of the bible... concerning human sexuality harming peoples lives and souls?

Are Christian parents harming their children by teaching them biblical principles about sex and sexuality?

Is what the bible says about sex old fashioned... out of date... an irrelevant in our modern world?

Discover the answers to these and other important questions in this intriguing series of episodes...

A Critical Response To Purity Culture Outrage.

As a teenager Ben Bennett was already struggling with many doubts about God... and depression.  Then his grandfather took his own life, which pushed Ben even further away from God.  In his attempt to manage all the pain and confusion he was feeling, Ben turned to pornography in the attempt to self-medicate... and then battled a porn addiction that would last for at least 10 years.   

It wasn't until 2013 that Jesus brought him to healing and lasting freedom through being counseled and mentored by Dr. Ted Roberts of Pure Desire, utilizing a Biblical and clinical approach to sexual addiction recovery.

Ben worked with the campus ministry of Cru for several years, serving as the Mid-Atlantic Regional Coordinator for Cru’s sexual addiction recovery groups, helping staff and students find true healing and freedom.

He currently resides in Dallas, Texas and serves with Josh McDowell Ministry as an author and speaker, supporting the health and restoration of men and women struggling with porn and sexual brokenness.

Ben is an author and speaker who is passionate about helping young men and women understand how to experience healing and freedom from porn use, sexual brokenness, and habitual sin. He co-authored Living Free with Dr. Ted Roberts of Pure Desire which is a year long porn addiction recovery curriculum for college age men.

Another work he co-authored is Flesh, a 12 week online journey (available at Cru.org) which helps men understand the battle of sexual sin and it's underlying contributing factors.

He is in the process of launching a new Cru ministry initiative with Christian apologist, author, and speaker Josh McDowell. This new ministry will serve the global church by equipping ministries, churches, and organizations to help individuals find true freedom from porn use and sexual brokenness as they encounter Jesus, healthy communities, and recovery solutions. 

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